“10 Most Important Things I’ve Learned After Losing My Son”, This Grieving Dad Writes in His Viral Post

Nothing puts things in perspective quite like the death of a loved one. And nothing teaches you valuable lessons about parenting more than losing the most important little people in our lives. That’s when you realize that nothing in the world matters more than spending precious time with them. It teaches us to cherish every moment, even the simplest things. This, is what this grieving father wants to tell other parents.

Meet Richard Pringle of Sussex,United Kingdom. His 3-year old son Hughie died last year after suffering a brain haemorrhage. He left his family devasted, and his father missing his beautiful little boy.

One year later, Richard, reflects on the loss of his son with a message to other parents about the 10 lessons he has learned as a parent who has lost a child.

The 10 Most Important Things I’ve Learnt Since Losing My Son 🙏

1. You can never ever kiss and love too much. 

 
2. You always have time. Stop what you’re doing and play, even if it’s just for a minute. Nothing’s that important that it can’t wait. 

 
3. Take as many photos and record as many videos as humanly possible. One day that might be all you have. 

 
4. Don’t spend money, spend time. You think what you spend matters? It doesn’t. What you do matters. Jump in puddles, go for walks. Swim in the sea, build a camp and have fun. That’s all they want. I can’t remember what we bought Hughie I can only remember what we did. 

 
5. Sing. Sing songs together. My happiest memories are of Hughie sitting on my shoulders or sitting next to me in the car singing our favourite songs. Memories are created in music. 

 
6. Cherish the simplest of things. Night times, bedtimes, reading stories. Dinners together. Lazy Sundays. Cherish the simplest of times. They are what I miss the most. Don’t let those special times pass you by unnoticed. 

 
7. Always kiss those you love goodbye and if you forget. Go back and kiss them. You never know if it’s the last time you’ll get the chance. 

 
8. Make boring things fun. Shopping trips, car journeys, walking to the shops. Be silly, tell jokes, laugh, smile and enjoy yourselves. They’re only chores if you treat them like that. Life is too short not to have fun. 

 
9. Keep a journal. Write down everything your little ones do that lights up your world. The funny things they say, the cute things they do. We only started doing this after we lost Hughie. We wanted to remember everything. Now we do it for Hettie and we will for Hennie too. You’ll have these memories written down forever and when your older you can look back and cherish every moment. 

 
10. If you have your children with you. To kiss goodnight. To have breakfast with. To walk to school. To take to university. To watch get married. You are blessed. Never ever forget that ❤️

 

Want to send Richard a message and thank him for this wonderful reminder about parenting? Click here to visit his Facebook Page

 

Author: Loraine Balita-Centeno

I'm a Manila based journalist who's been working in the industry for 12 years. I've written pieces for newspapers and magazines based in Manila and some abroad. I'm a work-at-home-mom of two so I spend my days writing or editing with a toddler clamped around one leg and a pre-schooler asking me questions every 10 minutes.

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